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TOGETHER IN HEALING
HOLIDAYS CAN BE HARD
The story of your number is the story of your ACE history.
ACEs are Adverse Childhood Experiences. Our ACE history counts experiences of abuse, neglect and household challenges that happened to us as children. But that number does not define us. It is simply an entry point to our own personal story.
Where it leads is up to you.
SPOTLIGHT
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Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Nadine Burke Harris team up to address ACEs.
What happens when two powerhouse leaders team up to address one of the most pressing issues of our time? Find out here in this dynamic conversation between the legendary Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Nadine Burke Harris as they talk about ACEs.
FIRST OFF
What are ACEs?
Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) can be highly stressful experiences that can happen to any of us before we turn 18.
ACEs are not our fault, and we didn’t have control over when or why they happened. They can be a single event. Or they can be an ongoing struggle where our safety, security, trust, or even our very sense of self is threatened or violated.
The original 10 ACEs
Abuse
Neglect
Household Challenges
As many of us know, these 10 ACEs are not the only kind of adversities we may face as children. Millions of us have experienced discrimination, poverty, and racism as kids, and these experiences can have similar impacts as ACEs.
Other common childhood adversities beyond the ten ACEs in the original study include:
- Discrimination based on race, ethnicity, gender identity or sexual orientation (such as LGBTQ+), religion, learning differences, or disabilities
- Poverty
- Racism, systemic and institutional
- Other violence, like getting bullied, experiencing violence yourself, or seeing others get hurt in your neighborhood, community or school
- Intergenerational and cultural trauma, like the displacement and genocide of indigenous people, slavery, and the Holocaust
- Separation from a parent or caregiver because of immigration or foster care
- Other big changes in life, like migration or immigration, being a refugee or seeking asylum, moving to a new area where you don’t know anyone, or separation from someone important to you
- Bereavement and survivorship, like having a relative or caregiver die, or surviving an illness, injury or accident, or natural disaster
- Adult responsibilities as a child, like caring for someone who’s sick or disabled, or being the one responsible for getting food on the table at a young age
At the core of ACEs is adversity…
And when the stress of that adversity doesn’t go away, that stress can literally get under our skin and become toxic if we don’t have adequate support from our parents or caregivers.
What is toxic stress?
Stress on its own isn’t a bad thing. Our body’s stress response is designed to give us a boost of energy and increase focus so we can better tackle the task at hand.
SCIENTISTS HAVE DEFINED THREE DIFFERENT LEVELS OF STRESS:
Positive
Tolerable
Toxic
As children, ACEs can cause us to develop a toxic stress response. Living in poverty, or in a violent neighborhood, or dealing with discrimination can also cause a toxic stress response. To learn more about these and other childhood adversities and how they increase children’s risk for toxic stress, click here.
It’s important for parents, caregivers, and other adults who care about children to know that we can buffer and support kids who are experiencing adversity. To learn more about how to help kids, click here.
The bear in the house
Let’s say we spot a bear in the woods. Our heart pounds, our muscles tense, our senses spring to high alert.
Which is good. That’s our body preparing us to fight the bear, run away from it as fast as we can, or hold completely still in hopes it passes us without harm. This is often referred to as Fight, Flight, or Freeze.
But what happens when the bear comes through the front door night after night? It triggers our fight, flight, or freeze response again and again and overloads the system.
